this article on Blogher. It's a throwaway, tangential to the subject of the article, about an alleged sex tape that came out during the divorce proceedings of a celebrity and the author asides, "you would think that in this day and age people take the camcorder out of the bedroom, but apparently not in this case." [sic]
If I'm perfectly honest my hackles went straight fucking up.
I'll agree that I'm sick of every celebrity on the face of planet earth getting "caught" with a sex tape. When you have a certain amount of notoriety it's probably not a bad idea to take a step back before you turn on your recording device and ask yourself why this particular activity is important to your partner. It's absolutely within the realm of possibility that they get a kick out of watching themselves have sex on screen but there's also a chance they're scamming you. It sucks and no one should have to think about it when all they're working on is a good old roll in the hay but it's a fact of life and, frankly, it has been since the first camera. It's just easier to disseminate the information these days. Not to mention harder to retrieve it once it's out there.
On the other hand I think a blanket disapproval of recording acts of sex and sensuality is fucking ridiculous. If you don't like doing something like that? Don't do it! And if you do like it may I strongly recommend that you only engage in this sort of performance with someone you trust. Not like, "I'd absolutely trust her to pick out fruit for me at the market" but "I'd trust him with my deepest, most closely held secrets." Because there's a third hand to this argument. There always is, isn't there?
I still don't think it's stupid to enjoy recording our sexual exploits. Is it a bit dangerous? Sure it is and to varying degrees depending on who we are and how we live the rest of our lives. But it's not stupid.
What about you, ever been taped? Any regrets? Would you do it again? Or for the first time? I promise I won't ask you to share your highlight reel!
Yes. No regrets really, though they have disappeared into the ether and I wonder if they'll resurface and embarrass me at some point.ReplyDelete
No, but my partner has suggested it. Not strongly enough yet to convince me.ReplyDelete
I have done very incriminating photos with my ex-husband, and man am I glad I got those in the divorce!
I, too, was taped (although no actual tape was involved) giving a blow job, and for the same reason. The guy used his cell phone and I didn't give it a thought at the moment. In retrospect, it might not have been too bright but I may not have even been recognizable. The guy in question has some serious sex/relationship/guilt issues and he deleted the video almost as soon as the act was complete and he clicked off the camera. I don't regret it but I don't know if I would agree to it again. Then again, I might...ReplyDelete
I've been photographed in the act, but never taped. It's not a trust issue for me, but more of an "I'm already fat and ugly, please don't add on another 10 lbs by putting my on video" issue.ReplyDelete
Photos, yes, but fortunately he used my own camera, so I was able to delete them when I came to my senses. Also it was my husband who took them, so....ReplyDelete
way back in the way-back-times of my life, i let an ex photograph me.ReplyDelete
fortunately, the photo that survived the set is rather nice. UNfortunately, nearly the entire internet (or at least that part of the internet that views collegehumor regularly) has seen it. MAN was that a hard lesson to learn...
Photos. No video.ReplyDelete